Unconditional Love

Isn’t that funny. We expect and demand someone to give us what we are not willing to give. Unconditional love. If we expect that from someone to make us feel safe and loved, wanted and desired, don’t we have to understand what it is? Don’t we have to feel it for ourselves before we can accept or expect anyone else to give it to us? Unconditional love: loving without limitations, conditions, or reservations. If we don’t provide that for ourselves, what is our point of reference to measure the love that is to fulfill our lives. How would we know what we are searching for or what we expect someone to give to us? How do we express to someone what we need?

In order to know that there is such a kind of love, we had to have read it somewhere, seen it in a movie or somewhere, sometime, someone showed us a glimpse of it. Right? Wrong. We were born knowing unconditional love. It is a gift, a birthright given to us from the very beginning. It’s the conditioning once our souls take on the human form that limits our belief in unconditional love. It’s erased and replaced by conditioned thoughts of the world. We learn our actions cause reactions. We learn that we are either good or bad. We learn What is acceptable and what is not. That becomes our point of reference, removing us far away from what we were born with. After time and experiences it almost seems hopeless to return.

It is true that seeing glimpses of it in movies and books confirms in our hearts that it does exist. We are told that it is only fantasy. That it is the fantasy we are craving. Not true. Our spirit is craving what we knew from the beginning.

We need to take the time to find out what “unconditional love" is for ourselves instead of Depending on someone to do it for us. If we aren't clear on what it is how will our needs and desires get met? We expect someone to give us something but we aren't clear as to what that “something is. Following that path, we will always be disappointed. We will always place people in position to let us down; all the while they have no idea what we are expecting from them. If we are unable to express our need in a clear manner there will be no one that will understand. If it is not clear to us it certainly will not be clear to them.

Finding your true unconditional love means finding the true you. When was the last time you really focused on finding out who you really are? So in reading this, the answer sounds easy but how do you begin? Where do you start to begin this path of finding unconditional love?

You must work through painful experiences that create anger or bitterness in you. Why did it happen? What was the lesson to be learned in it? Be grateful for the people that were put in your path to help you with that lesson, rather than resenting them for hurting you. It is absolutely impossible to unconditionally love yourself if you harbor bitterness, anger, guilt or any other feelings that are not love.

When looking through your “looking glass? you see things as you have been conditioned to see them. That woman smashed into the back of your new car because you feel you don’t deserve to have a new car. The kids are disobeying you because they don’t care about you. Your partner is angry because you blame them for things and it’s not their fault. It’s all bad luck; if it weren't for bad luck you’d have no luck. Hear that before?

It’s how you look at the lessons that will make your journey easy or difficult. Clean off your “looking glass?and let’s get started.

• Focus on who you are. Write down all the qualities you know about yourself. For example; (You love helping people, You love working with children, You are creative and so on.) Write them down so you can actually see the wonderful qualities about yourself that you know are there.

• Practice speaking out loud all of the things you deserve. You deserve that new car, you deserve people to respect you, and you deserve unconditional love. This is called affirmation. When your subconscious hears the words it starts to believe them. But you must do the work because no one will do it for you. You are in charge.

• Find a way to return to times and places that bring up resentful, fearful feelings where your needs were not getting met. If you don’t feel like you can do it alone, find a “coach" or therapist, or a friend that will help you feel safe and loved during the times of recalling these events. Talk about them. Get honest, healthy, and safe feed back. Your ultimate idea of a bounce back partner is your life partner who is in your life to help you grow and heal these areas. The idea here is to recall them, feel them (pain and all), and then release them, let go to open up another room for unconditional love.

Recalling the event or person will give you a starting point. Recall the people involved, recall how you felt, and what should have happened instead to meet your needs. How would you handle it today, knowing that you deserve to get your needs met, knowing that you deserve unconditional love, and knowing that in order to receive unconditional love you need to give it.

Feel the pain that the event and people caused you. Go deep inside, feel the anger, feel the hurt, feel the rejection, feel the disapproval, feel how alone you were at that moment in your life. Cry.Cry. Cry. And when you are through crying all of the tears you have over it, think for a moment how that situation would be handled today, knowing that you deserve to get your needs met, knowing you deserve unconditional love, and knowing in order to receive unconditional love you need to give it.

And finally, release the past, release the pain, and forgive. Forgive means to stop being angry about or resentful against, to relieve from payment of. To relieve from payment of the past is the step that will bring you to unconditional love. The world owes you nothing. You were born deserving it, so was everyone else. We are here on our journey’s to help each other heal.

Learning how to love yourself unconditionally., creating your dream love by being clear on what you are looking for and be sure that you are able to provide that for yourself before expecting someone to provide it for you, that’s where you will find unconditional love.

BIOLINK Helderberg - Making your child Tease Proof

Several studies on ADHD have shown that children with ADHD generally have lower self-esteem than their healthy peers and their global self-esteem, social acceptance and school skills are most affected.  For most of us, it is extremely important to be accepted by the group.  Naturally this becomes more difficult when an individual is so much different to the rest of the group, e.g. clumsy on the sports field, unable to sit still in class, always in trouble with a specific teacher etc.

In 2001, the New York University Child Study Center conducted a survey of 507 parents. It found that kids with attention deficit disorder (ADD/ADHD) were nearly three times more likely to have difficulty getting along with, and more than twice as likely to get picked on by, peers, compared to children without ADHD.

One of the problems is that children with ADD/ADHD or autism spectrum syndromes like Aspergers’s are very often not able to pick up on nonverbal clues that the rest of us can without thinking.  The result is that these children are often misunderstood and that there behaviour could in many cases be seen as irritating by others.  ADHD behaviors, such as frequent interrupting and lack of standard social etiquette, may be misinterpreted as intentionally hurtful. Other behaviors simply provide easy targets for teasing during the precarious middle-school years. These behaviors may include: poor eye contact, too much activity, both verbal and nonverbal, and failure to notice social cues. Misinterpretation of such behaviors often causes trouble for both the ADHD child and his schoolmates.  Naturally, this makes them vulnerable to verbal (and phyiscal) bullying.

The truth of the matter is that words can hurt - deeply. There are many heart-wrenching stories from young people being teased by their peers.  All children in the "in-between" years are susceptible to bullying by classmates, but kids who have ADHD may receive a disproportionate amount. If a child faces mean words and acts on a regular basis, the effects take their toll on his  or her schoolwork and overall happiness.

Parents can help their preteens hold back the tide of teasing by teaching social skills at home. Practice maintaining eye contact during short conversations. Emphasize the importance of using transitional expressions when greeting or leaving friends, such as "Hi" and "Bye," and of saying "Please," "Thank you," and "I'm sorry." Ask your child to try counting to five in his head before making any comments or responding during a conversation. This five-second margin will reduce inappropriate verbal blurting and help teach him to become a better listener.

If preteens do not see how they may draw negative attention, they may come away from social interactions feeling that they are hopelessly and inexplicably disliked. Parents may advise their children to "just ignore it," but this strategy can be difficult for ADHD students. As you help your child build social skills, continue to listen to their problems. Provide a forum to discuss interactions and help them come up with their own strategies for dealing with the teasers of the world. Involve your children in activities at which they can be successful. Respond to your preteen when he shows what an interesting, loyal, and compassionate person he is becoming. Reinforce connections to his friends who show positive qualities. Tell about your own childhood (or present-day!) encounters with hurtful people and share your solutions.

Young people take cues from those around them. Compassion may not be the strongest suit for many preteens, but school can be an ideal setting for changing this paradigm.

That "magical, protective shield" that we all wish for our children must be built over time. While no single technique can eliminate the teasing words or actions that hurt feelings, there's a lot that parents and teachers can do to help.

Health Corner News

Deficiencies in certain types of foods can worsen ADHD symptoms in children and adults. Getting adequate levels of the right foods optimizes brain function.  Foods rich in protein -- lean beef, pork, poultry, fish, eggs, beans, nuts, soy, and low-fat dairy products -- can have beneficial effects on ADD symptoms. Protein-rich foods are used by the body to make neurotransmitters, the chemicals released by brain cells to communicate with each other. Protein can prevent surges in blood sugar, which increase hyperactivity.

Balanced Meals. When children are on a well-balanced diet, including vegetables, complex carbohydrates, fruits, and plenty of protein, their behavior tend to be more consistently under control.  Recent studies have confirmed that the exclusion of food colourants from the diet and the inclusion of omega 3 fatty acid supplements have a positive effect on ADHD symptoms.

Ned Hallowell, M.D., founder of the Hallowell Center for Cognitive and Emotional Health, in Sudbury, Massachusetts, and New York City, advises all of his ADHD patients to think about their plates when preparing a meal. Half of the plate, he recommends, should be filled with fruits or vegetables, one-fourth with a protein, and one-fourth with carbohydrates.

Hallowell also advocates eating several servings of whole grains, which are rich in fiber, each day to prevent blood sugar levels from spiking and then plummeting. 

Well, there you have it.  A balanced meal that excludes food colourants still is the best way to support the person with ADHD.  Wander off this path and prepare for peril.  

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Ozone Therapy - an amazing therapy to many conditions.

Ozone Therapy

Conditions treated with Ozone Therapy: 

Parkinsonism | Stroke | Psoriasis | Cancer | AIDS | Slip Disc

Ozone may be a wonder molecule to the clinicians though its potentials yet to be fully explored. It has role in controlling bacterial, fungal & viral infections including AIDS, treating non-healing ulcers, Rheumatoid and other kinds of arthritis, different kind of skin diseases and many others. But here we shall restrict our discussion in role of ozone in pain management.  Ozone is a tri-atomic Oxygen molecule, O3, with a different molecular structure than  Oxygen. At room temperature, Ozone is a colorless gas with a characteristic odor (similar smell after thunderstorms, at high altitudes or near the sea etc). At ground level its concentration 0.03 - 0.04 ppm. Ozone in the atmosphere is produced by action of UV rays and thunderstorm on the atmospheric Oxygen; but Medical Ozone is produced from pure medical grade oxygen with the help of high voltage electrical discharge. Medical ozone is a mixture of oxygen and ozone of different concentration. Medical ozone is always freshly prepared on site (in a special generator) for immediate administration. A trained physician according to the medical indication and the patient's condition determines the exact dose of ozone. Treating patients with ozone (ozone therapy) is not a new procedure. The first ozone generators were developed by Werner von Siemens in Germany in 1857, and 1870 saw the first report on ozone being used therapeutically to purify blood, by C. Lender in Germany.  During World War 1, ozone was used to treat wounds, trench foot, gangrene and the effects of poison gas. Dr. Albert Wolff of Berlin also used ozone for colon cancer, cervical cancer and decubitis ulcers in 1915. Today, after 125 years of usage, ozone therapy is a recognized modality in many nations: Germany, France, Italy, Russia, Romania, Czech Republic, Poland, Hungary, Bulgaria, Israel, Cuba, Japan, Mexico, and in five US states. It was also used extensively to treat war wounds during World War-II. It was not popularized before, as ozone resistant materials were not used to produce ozone generators. Also the exact concentration of ozone was unknown. Former Ozone generators are either UV light Ozone generators or plasma type Ozone generators. Here, it was very difficult to know the precise concentration of ozone.  Now with the present Corona-discharge Ozone generators, it is possible to know the exact concentration of Ozone. Also, by changing the current or the oxygen flow, Ozone concentration can be precisely modified.  Ozone therapy has been found to be an extremely safe medical therapy, free from side effects. In a 1980 study done by the German Medical Society for Ozone Therapy, 644 therapists were polled regarding their 384,775 patients, comprising a total of 5,579,238 ozone treatments (ozone therapy) administered. There were only 40 cases of side effects noted out of this number that represents the incredibly low rate of .000007%. Ozone Therapy has been described as the safest known medical therapy. Among the various diseases presented with pain the following has been treated with ozone therapy with very good results; e.g. rheumatoid arthritis, systemic lupus erythemoatosis, scleroderma, polymyositis/fibromyositis, ankylosing spondylitis, osteo-arthritis, Reiter syndrome, psoriasis, synovitus, gout, chrondrocalcinosis, pyrophosphate arthropathy, calcific peri-arthritis, calcific tendinitis, calcinosis and inter-vertebral disc prolapse. In our Pain Clinic we apply ozone therapy for osteo- arthritis of knee, trigger point injections for fibromyalgia/ Myofascial pain, and inter-vertebral disc prolapse or slipped disc successfully.  How Ozone should be administered?  There are different methods like inhalation of ozone/oxygen or ozone/air mixture; insufflations through rectum/vagina; treating with ozonated water (drinking, dressing wound/ulcers etc.); auto-transfusion of ozonated blood, application of ozonated oil and so on depending on type and site of disease. But for treatment of different pain we use injection of different concentrations of ozone gas only. Ozone molecule is not stable. It has a half-life of 20 minutes only. So, within 20 minutes only half of the original ozone remains, the rest becomes oxygen. Increase in temperature decreases its half-life. For injection it is always freshly prepared on site for immediate administration. Only Ozone resistant syringes can be used for injecting it. The contraindications for treatment with ozone are only a few. They are active bleeding from any site, pregnancy, and active hyperthyroidism. The mechanisms of action of ozone are many. Most of its actions are due to the active oxygen atom liberated from breaking down of ozone molecule. Besides its action as bactericidal, fungicidal, viricidal agent, it activates cellular metabolism, modulates the immune system & increases and activates body's own antioxidants and radical scavengers. In the treatment of pain different other mechanism acts. There is enhancement of circulation. Ozone reduces or eliminates clumping and red cell. Its flexibility is restored, along with oxygen carrying ability (due to the stimulation of 2,3-diphosphoglycerate). Oxygenation of the tissues increases as the arterial partial pressure increases and viscosity decreases. Ozone also oxidizes the plaque in arteries, allowing the removal of the breakdown products, unclogging the blood vessels. All these leads to an increase in the amount of oxygen released to the diseased tissues. There is also reduced formation of inflammatory mediators like different prostaglandins and so there is an anti-inflammatory action.  In case of prolapsed inter-vertebral disc (or, slipped disc) different other mechanism acts. Inter-vertebral disc is filled with nucleus pulposus which is a jelly like material which holds water (90% of disc material is water). When ozone is injected into the disc the proteo- glycan bridges in the jelly-like material are broken down and they no longer capable of holding water. As a result disc shrinks and mummified which is equivalent to surgical discectomy and so the procedure is called ozone discectomy or ozonucleolysis. It has been published in neuro-surgical journals that up to 85% of disc operation can be avoided with these non-surgical interventions. Success rate is about 88% which is comparable to surgical discectomy (50% to 90%). Complications are remarkably low and much less than surgery. Cost of Ozone therapy for slip disc is also much less compared to surgery. Ozone is gradually gaining popularity in various medical fields especially in pain management. Newer modification in techniques and administration of ozone, more and more publication of scientific materials in the medical journals and animal studies have made it more acceptable to the medical community and gradually it is becoming more popular.  Conditions treated with Ozone Therapy: Daradia has separate Ozone Therapy Unit and treats following conditions other than Pain Management: Parkinsonism Stroke Psoriasis & other skin diseases Cancer  AIDS General well-being & Rejuvenation

What is Phytotherapy?

Phytotherapy is a form of medical treatment which relies on the use of plants, either whole or in the form of prepared extracts and essences. For thousands of years, plants were a primary source of therapeutic medication for cultures all over the world. With the 20th century came the development of synthesization techniques and totally synthetic drugs, causing phytotherapy to fall out of popularity. However, plants still have a very important place in medicine, and they will continue to do so well into the foreseeable future.

This technique involves the study of plants to determine their properties, and the careful application of plants to treat medical problems. Herbal medicine is a form of phytotherapy, and many of the remedies used in homeopathy are also phytotherapeutic in origin. Extracts of plants are also used in the preparation of some commercial pharmaceuticals, as are synthetic drugs which are based on compounds found in plants. Researchers are also constantly studying plants to find new pharmaceutical compounds and potential applications for them.

When phytotherapy is conducted responsibly, the preparations used are standardized, which means that they are grown, harvested, and processed in a way which is designed to create a very reliable and stable dose of active ingredients. Many processors regularly test batches of the medicines they prepare to confirm that the active ingredients are present and exists in the concentration expected, and producers of such drugs also breed, grow, and harvest plants in ways which are designed to enhance reliable performance.

Captivate an Audience Workshop

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  How to give an Effective Presentation, Workshop and Talk What it is about: Have you ever gone to a talk only to find that you did not enjoy it, felt that you didn't get what you were expecting and maybe even got irritated with it? Don’t be one of those presenters who cause this for your audience. Regardless of your topic you can present a talk/workshop that will draw each and every person into what you are discussing and have them leave feeling that they got something out of it, that you touched their lives and that they want to interact with you again. It has nothing to do with confidence in standing in front of people but rather what happens in the background and beforehand. Giving an effective presentation will boost your credibility, have your business grow and have you touch and change more people’s lives. 21st March 2014 – Friday 10:00 – 15:00 (arrive 8:45am) Location: i.move studio at Mayfair – 3 Bright Street Somerset West. Presenter: Nicola Symons Cost: R250 This workshop will empower you on: 1. How to put a structure together for any talk, presentation or workshop that you may have to present. 2. Soft skills around public speaking. 3. Talking skills – the power of the voice. 4. Skills around set up, planning and execution. 4. How people are different and how you can relate to all the differences in your audience and still be effective with each one. 5. The above 4 pointers will give you the confidence to speak in public. What to bring: Pen, Paper, Lunch or money to buy lunch, Good attitude, Energy Non-refundable deposit of R100 to be paid to book your space. Space is limited. Book either through Mayfair on 021 851 7037 or directly with Nicola Symons: nicolagymgirl@hotmail.com About the presenter: I have been public speaking most of my life, doing drama throughout school and have been on stage or behind a podium since then, presenting many talks, symposiums, conventions and workshops. Some of my public speaking highlights have been: presenting at Discovery Wellness Convention, teaching Richard Brandson how to Zumba in front of hundreds of people, being the MC for an indoor triathlon that featured on Super Sport TV, working with Patrick Holford on one of his 2 day symposiums. I am qualified in “Train the trainer” and “Making learning happen”. These qualifications were the stepping stones to move public speaking from being a once off event into continual education and facilitation. I have been a master trainer for 8 years: writing manuals and presenting topics related to my field of expertise. I am also currently a facilitator working adhoc for Virgin Active and HFPA, facilitating many subjects and courses. I wish to teach those, who are interested, in the skills around presenting and hosting workshops as I find that there are so many great people with great things that they do, but they fall short on getting this across due to not knowing the formula on how to give an effective presentation. So if you feel you need these skills I would love to interact with you in my workshop.

YOGA AND VEDANTA

Sun 27th, Mon 28th April @ i.move

9-1pm Mini Urban Retreat
9 to 11:30 Yoga practice – asana and pranayama
Short break for tea
11:45 to 1pm delving into the Yoga understanding through Questions from the group and Bhagavad Gita and Yoga Sutras

  R400 per day (R300 for pensioners) and/or R700 if you attend both days (R500 for pensioners)